When Spc. Austin Monk deployed to Iraq in August 2009, the soldiers wife expected the worst.
When your loved one deploys to Iraq, you expect them to come home injured, (physically or emotionally) wounded, or you expect them to come back dead, Laura Monk told The Unknown Soldiers.
She never thought her 20-year-old husbands combat deployment would end with a shocking diagnosis of leukemia.
You never expect them to come back with cancer, she said.
Laura met Austin on an early morning bus ride from her native Philadelphia to New York City in December 2007. After she was initially too nervous to talk to the cute soldier from Texas as the bus made the short trip up Interstate 95, they struck up a conversation.
Everything else that wound up happening in our lives showed we were meant to meet, Laura said.
Austin and Laura got married in March 2009, shortly after the soldier returned from Korea.
It was awesome because we got to build our relationship through conversations, learn about each other over the phone and have an emotional connection, Laura said. We just fell in love.
Less than five months after their wedding, Spc. Monk deployed to Iraqs Al Anbar Province with an 82nd Airborne Division personal security detachment.
This is what I signed up to do, Austin said to his wife. Austin first complained about a terrible headache during one of the couples Skype conversations. Then, on Halloween 2009, Austin wrote Laura a MySpace message saying he had a 104-degree fever.
Dont worry about me, Austin added.
A few weeks later, fellow soldiers found Austin lying on the floor of his barracks. The ordeal that followed, which took the soldier from hospitals in Iraq to Germany, left Laura feeling helpless as she agonized over her husbands condition from thousands of miles away.
They initially thought he had mono or tuberculosis and that the headache could have been from his wisdom teeth, Laura Monk said.
When Laura was informed her husband was suffering from leukemia, all she wanted was to be by his side.
Ill be there soon, she said. After the Army flew Laura to Germany, she would rarely be separated from Austin again, except for one special week.
He told me to go to Paris, Laura said. Even though he was stuck in the hospital, he wanted to make it enjoyable for me.
Austin and Laura eventually ended up at a top cancer hospital in Houston. With Austins cancer in remission after a May 2011 bone marrow transplant, the Monks were preparing to head home to North Carolina, where the soldier was stationed, with a renewed sense of optimism.
We thought we were good, Laura said. It was normalcy normalcy for us.
Austin collapsed just hours before the couples flight. A few hours later, the soldier learned his cancer had returned.
That was the last time he was ever outside a hospital, Laura said.
The Monks eventually returned to North Carolina, where Austin, 22, would spend his last days in a hospice facility. In the early morning hours of Oct. 5, 2011, Laura, who met the love of her life by chance on a bus, told her husband it was time for his next trip.
Its OK for you to go, she whispered in Austins ear. I love you.
Even after three years of pain, Laura feels deeply inspired by the courage displayed by her husband, both as an American soldier and a young cancer patient.
I want him to be remembered as the smiling Austin, the guy who loved the Dallas Cowboys, the guy that, no matter what the consequences, signed up and joined the Army, she said.
Spc. Austin Monk will always be with his wife. And due to the wonders of medical technology, Laura still hopes to bear his children.
He would have been a great dad, she said. But hell be looking down on us.
Laura Monk expected the worst when her husband went to Iraq. But even after the unimaginable ordeal that followed, her outlook has changed for the better.
I have to make the best of it because its all Ive got, she said.
Tom Sileo is a syndicated columnist. His Unknown Soldiers columns are distributed by Creators Syndicate and appear in the Centre Daily Times on Fridays. Readers may follow his posts on Facebook and his blog at www.unknownsoldiersblog.com.