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Ask Emily | Try on multiple bathing suits to find one you love

By Emily ChertowMay 24, 2014 

Dear Emily,

I am in the hunt for a new bikini, but I’m unsure what I’m looking for. How do I find the right one?

Dear Suit-Seeker,

Ugh, I guess it is that time of year again when the bikinis are in the front of the clothing sections screaming your name as you try to run and hide from them. Unfortunately, bathing suit shopping is something you must conquer. When going to find a new bathing suit, I would advise you to do the following:

• Go to the store with a good chunk of time; do not be in a rush. Bathing suit shopping isn’t really something you can hurry; it is safe to try them on first.

• Shop alone. Shopping by yourself for the essentials is important. When you try on your bathing suit, make sure that you like how you look in it; do not base something like that off someone else’s opinion. You are the one wearing it and you are the one that needs to feel like a bombshell in it.

• Most essential while trying your suit on is moving around in it. Do a few quick, awkward jumping jacks in the fitting room to make sure it holds up. Do the Elle Woods “bend and snap” just to make sure that when you bend over, everything that should be covered remains covered.

There isn’t a specific way to find the “right” bathing suit; it often takes many tries. Try on many sizes and styles until you find one that you think fits and works best. The most important thing about finding the suit is that you feel confident and comfortable.

Dear Emily,

I am in 10th grade and am very much an introvert, and I’ve been this way for as long as I remember. Everyone calls me “the quiet girl.” Even the few friends that I have will introduce me to other people by saying “Oh, here’s Kate, she’s quiet.” They’ll say, “Why are you so quiet?” or “You’re so quiet all the time.” I get called boring a lot, but it’s not like I don’t have any interests. I like to read and I like to think I’m pretty artistic. I just don’t like to talk all the time. I don’t want to be any different, but I’m scared there is something wrong with me. What do I do?

Dear Kate,

There is not a single thing wrong with you. You are who you are. In high school, there are many types of people. There are people who are similar to you and there are people who are the opposite of you.

Tenth grade is a hard transition year; it’s a time where you likely are starting to figure yourself out, but you also understand and gain knowledge on what you truly are interested in.

You like to read and like to be artistic. Being called boring is frustrating, but I can assure you that you aren’t boring. Don’t let the people that say that get you down, because it’s obvious that you share different interests. There are other people interested in the same things as you; join the book club or the art club or something in town that allows you to get involved in something that you enjoy doing.

It’s OK that you are the “quiet girl,” but if you don’t like being introduced as that, then intervene and say something polite and nice after you are introduced or let your friends know that you don’t really care for hearing them introduce you like that.


Emily Chertow is a high school student in central Pennsylvania who writes a monthly column offering nonprofessional advice from the point of view of a teenager. You can send questions to her at or mail them to Ask Emily, c/o Centre Daily Times, 3400 E. College Ave., State College, PA 16801.

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