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Ask Emily | Little things take time to forget in breakups

Dear Emily,

I recently just went through a rough breakup, and there are so many things that remind me of my ex-boyfriend. What are some things that I can do to get these things off of my mind?

Dear Reminded,

Honestly, the past experiences, memories and little things you shared with your ex may be one of the hardest things to get over; it’s likely one of the things that will take much time to start forgetting about.

I’ll let you in on a little secret of mine, in sixth grade with my first “boyfriend” ever, we had a song (cliche and silly, trust me I know). Our song was “Bubbly” by Colbie Caillat. To this day, every time I hear that song I think of him and all the awkward encounters I endured during my middle school years.

My point with that tidbit is that some of the things that remind you of your ex will never fade and that is OK in some ways. He played a role in the journey of your life and that’s something to be thankful for, so giggle at the little things that remind you of him and just remember they are in the past.

As for special places or traditions you may have had with this boy, try to avoid them and stop doing them or going to these places. Yet, don’t let a silly boy interfere with the way you interact with others, and don’t let it stop you from doing things. At times, going to your old spots will only make you more upset and give you a reason to throw yourself a pity party.

OK, I’ll admit it, we all deserve a few pity parties, especially after a breakup, but when I say a few, I mean ONLY a few, and that is it. After your pity parties are done, start changing your routine. It’s time for you to move onto bigger and better things!

Change some little things that you did in your day while having this boy in your life. Even if it’s something as simple as changing the time of day you brushed your teeth or went on a run.

Change is good, so embrace this opportunity to change things for the better. Try new things, that’ll never hurt you. Test the waters, do something different that will take you time to adjust to.

Do something daily that gets you out of your comfort zone. Eventually, with doing all of these things, you’ll start forgetting about the things you’ve shared with your past, causing your future and present to be bright and even more pleasant than you thought! Remember, it can only go up from here!

Dear Emily,

What is the best makeup for a first date to a dinner with a guy?

Dear First Date,

Well first off, first dates are so exciting, and don’t be nervous! Along with not being nervous, don’t overthink your outfit and makeup. What you wear on a first date can obviously be a little different from your everyday outfit, but let your makeup bring out your natural beauty. You don’t want to hide the true you because eventually they’ll see the true you.

As cliche as it is to say, the true you is perfect. The imperfections that you may want to hide up with makeup is very possibly something that your date will appreciate and like most about you.

As for skin, do what makes you feel comfortable. Cover up what you feel needs covered but use as little as possible. Ladies, I can promise that caking it on when you don’t need to is unnecessary. I find that using light concealer to cover up problem areas is very helpful. Also, add some blush to help the cheeks glow and pop.

Moving onto the eyes, stick with the natural look for the first date. Find the right shade to fit your eye color and to make you really pop. For me personally, I always fall to tans and creams, they are what I find best for my eyes. It does take testing and experimenting to find your right shades and colors. The most essential thing I believe for eyes and even for makeup overall is the mascara. I have found that drugstore brands do a job better than ones that you find in major retailers such as Sephora, Ulta, etc.

Mascara is what can make your eyes pop and make your natural beauty glow even more than it already does.

Something that I’ve heard a million times come out of my mother’s mouth is, “Emily, make sure to put Chapstick/lipgloss on before you leave the house.” Being the naive 18-year-old daughter that I am, I used to tune her out when she said that, yet today I’ve learned that she is 100 percent right. (Mom, if you’re reading this: You were right all along about most everything, I’m slowly learning).

Lips are essential. They are what can pull you together even when you feel sloppy or even pull you together even more when you are about to slide out the door for your first date. Moral of this is make sure you slide some lipgloss on before opening the door to your date.

Most importantly, smile. It will enhance the amazing job you’ve done on your makeup, yet lighten and make the mood of the date much better.

Enjoy your time with your date, don’t overthink too much how you look, just enjoy the nice company that you are given.