Allowing mistakes can teach your children coping skills

"'Kids need to feel badly sometimes,' says child psychologist David Elkind, professor at Tufts University. ‘We learn through experience and we learn through bad experiences. Through failure we learn to cope.’"

Messing up, however, even in the playground, is wildly out of style. Although error and experimentation are the true mothers of success, parents are taking pains to remove failure from the equation.”1 One of the most natural instincts a father has is to protect his kids. However, it is very important for fathers to step back at times and allow them to experience and learn from adversity.


The local fathering effort, in cooperation with the National Center for Fathering, provides bi-weekly action ideas to stimulate conversation between fathers and parents.

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