Why explaining “WHY” is so important when praising & disciplining your kids

Statements such as, “Great Job!” and “Don’t do that!” are used frequently by fathers as a way to offer positive and negative feedback respectively to their kids.

What’s not offered as frequently are explanations of WHY it was such a “great job” or WHY our kids “shouldn’t do that.”

While the quick statements help condition your child to know what’s right from wrong, the explanations are golden opportunities to teach your kids important values and lessons in life!


Kids often surprise us with just how much they actually know and remember. Young kids are especially wide-eyed and impressionable. Fathers can play a very important role in shaping their child’s character by deliberately and consistently involving their children in meaningful reflection on their behavior — both good and bad!

The local fathering effort, in cooperation with the National Center for Fathering, provides bi-weekly action ideas to stimulate conversation between fathers and parents.

For more information, or to join local conversations, contact

Mick Trombley at

David Eggebeen at

Robert Orndorff at

Marc McCann at 237-1719 or