When you thought your kids weren’t looking

“Thanks for all the things I saw when you thought I wasn’t looking” is the last line of one of my favorite poems.

“When You Thought I Wasn’t Looking” was written by a daughter who talks about the impact that a parent’s actions have on a child. They are everyday actions of caring, responsibility, generosity, and love.

Most parents do not intentionally try to teach life lessons through their actions – they are just being themselves. What they don’t realize, however, is that their children pick up on so much more than they’ll ever know. Letting a car out at a busy intersection, picking up trash in the park, and taking dinner to a sick neighbor may not directly help your child at that point in time; but the positive impact those types of actions have on shaping your child’s character will last a lifetime.


Mary Rita Schilke Korzan, author of “When You Thought I Wasn't Looking,” wrote this poem as a tribute to her mother.

The local fathering effort, in cooperation with the National Center for Fathering, provides bi-weekly action ideas to stimulate conversation between fathers and parents.

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Mick Trombley at

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Robert Orndorff at

Marc McCann at 237-1719 or