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Timing is everything

Earlier this year, I attended a training seminar with 100 of my co-workers. The leader kicked off the class by listing the objectives, expectations and the rules to which we all agreed to follow to ensure a successful week. After our first break, many of us returned ready to get started and there we sat — waiting. Fifteen minutes later when everyone returned, the leader reminded us that the class rules stated that no session would begin until all attendees were present. The simple lesson of being on time is an important lesson which we can share with our children. Consider these actions:


▪ Do you get upset when meetings, appointments, dinners etc., are delayed or canceled? Do you overlook your own tardiness when it’s time to drop off or pick your child from an activity and how this makes them feel?

▪ Discuss with your children the importance of being on time for class, practice, church, dinner, clubs, etc. and the impact which their tardiness may have on others. Examine the idea that being “late” is selfish — my time is more important than your time.

▪ Teach your child to adopt the habit of arriving about 10 minutes early for appointments, practice, etc. This is especially critical for job interviews, work — real life!

▪ Timeliness has many facets including completing homework, turning in projects, chores, returning an email or phone call. It is a commitment to complete your tasks and duties in the expected time and it actualizes being responsible.

The local fathering effort, in cooperation with the National Center for Fathering, provides monthly Action Ideas to stimulate conversation between fathers and parents. For more information, or to join local conversations, contact Mark Oleynik at or Marc McCann at